The tornado of grief is much more relatable than the five stages of grief. I don't know anyone, myself included, who can conveniently check off each stage in order. Thank you for sharing!
I hear you. Understanding the tornado helped my mental health and literally hundreds of others with whom I shared the concept. Thank you for commenting.
When my father died almost 19 years ago, one of my family members arranged for a grief counselor to be available for the family. The five stages of grief she shared in our group session did not resonate with me. Her subsequent follow-ups with me (apparently as the only family member who hadn't sought additional one-on-one interaction with her) fell flat. I felt as though I was being told that if I wasn't grieving — at least not in a professionally prescribed way — I wasn't being honest with myself about my feelings.
My feelings have never changed — regarding my father's death or other significant losses in my life.
Larry, you know me well enough to consider the myriad facets of this question:
What does my open acceptance of life's realities that others may label as overwhelming, depressing, or otherwise negative say about me?
The only other emotion I can relate to in the list of five is anger. I lived there (not concerning my father's passing, but with plenty of other situations) for many years; however, I haven't visited Angerville in a very long time.
I feel clarity with regard to my answer to the question I've posed. However, I'm always interested to hear others' thoughts — especially those of people who have known me through different legs of my journey.
The tornado of grief is much more relatable than the five stages of grief. I don't know anyone, myself included, who can conveniently check off each stage in order. Thank you for sharing!
I hear you. Understanding the tornado helped my mental health and literally hundreds of others with whom I shared the concept. Thank you for commenting.
When my father died almost 19 years ago, one of my family members arranged for a grief counselor to be available for the family. The five stages of grief she shared in our group session did not resonate with me. Her subsequent follow-ups with me (apparently as the only family member who hadn't sought additional one-on-one interaction with her) fell flat. I felt as though I was being told that if I wasn't grieving — at least not in a professionally prescribed way — I wasn't being honest with myself about my feelings.
My feelings have never changed — regarding my father's death or other significant losses in my life.
Larry, you know me well enough to consider the myriad facets of this question:
What does my open acceptance of life's realities that others may label as overwhelming, depressing, or otherwise negative say about me?
The only other emotion I can relate to in the list of five is anger. I lived there (not concerning my father's passing, but with plenty of other situations) for many years; however, I haven't visited Angerville in a very long time.
I feel clarity with regard to my answer to the question I've posed. However, I'm always interested to hear others' thoughts — especially those of people who have known me through different legs of my journey.
I hear you Bryan. I'm glad that your citizenship in Angerville has passed. I've seen the clarity in you.